"I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship." -Louisa May Alcott
Do you look at social media and feel like your life is falling apart or that you are not on track with the life you think the world of Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter has for you? Well, think about my silly advice I have for you---screw it!
This post is not intended to offend anyone in any way, and my hope is not to put down any part of someone’s life. Being engaged in your early 20’s is certainly not something I frown up; after all, some of my best friends are engaged or married, and I could not be more excited for them. I just think some of us (ladies and perhaps gentlemen) need to hear that it’s okay not to be at that point in our lives. Also, I hope people don’t read this and see me as being bitter.
So—raise your wine glass and consider: how many of you have seen at least one engagement photo on some form of social media this year? And while your glass is in the air, I can tell you it’s not easy to see-this coming from someone who earlier this year was planning a wedding. As you take a sip from your glass, you are looking at your friends’ beautiful photos with their big smiles, and you are thinking: COME ON WHY IS THAT NOT ME? Let’s be honest—you are judging their engagement rings and thinking that your ring better be just as pretty. After all, we learned expectations early on when our Barbie married Ken and drove away in the pink convertible . . . come on, I know I am not the only one! It’s hard to not wonder why it’s not happening to me or when our time is going to come. Ladies, take it from me, it will happen. What I do know now is that it’s not about the wedding; it’s about the love you feel and share with another. It’s also about making sure you are ready!
I understand how hard it can be to stand on the sidelines and watch. Trust me, the first wedding I went to after everything in my life happened was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I had some amazing friends by my side to make sure I was okay, but in a way it restored my hope for love. Being young and not engaged is not the end of the world. Look at all the things you can do: go back to school, pack your suitcase and go on a trip, flirt with any boy you want to at the bar, but HAVE FUN!! Being engaged is not a race-so don’t make it one!
Do you look at social media and feel like your life is falling apart or that you are not on track with the life you think the world of Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter has for you? Well, think about my silly advice I have for you---screw it!
This post is not intended to offend anyone in any way, and my hope is not to put down any part of someone’s life. Being engaged in your early 20’s is certainly not something I frown up; after all, some of my best friends are engaged or married, and I could not be more excited for them. I just think some of us (ladies and perhaps gentlemen) need to hear that it’s okay not to be at that point in our lives. Also, I hope people don’t read this and see me as being bitter.
So—raise your wine glass and consider: how many of you have seen at least one engagement photo on some form of social media this year? And while your glass is in the air, I can tell you it’s not easy to see-this coming from someone who earlier this year was planning a wedding. As you take a sip from your glass, you are looking at your friends’ beautiful photos with their big smiles, and you are thinking: COME ON WHY IS THAT NOT ME? Let’s be honest—you are judging their engagement rings and thinking that your ring better be just as pretty. After all, we learned expectations early on when our Barbie married Ken and drove away in the pink convertible . . . come on, I know I am not the only one! It’s hard to not wonder why it’s not happening to me or when our time is going to come. Ladies, take it from me, it will happen. What I do know now is that it’s not about the wedding; it’s about the love you feel and share with another. It’s also about making sure you are ready!
I understand how hard it can be to stand on the sidelines and watch. Trust me, the first wedding I went to after everything in my life happened was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I had some amazing friends by my side to make sure I was okay, but in a way it restored my hope for love. Being young and not engaged is not the end of the world. Look at all the things you can do: go back to school, pack your suitcase and go on a trip, flirt with any boy you want to at the bar, but HAVE FUN!! Being engaged is not a race-so don’t make it one!